Making the decision to divorce is never an easy one. If you are considering it yourself, then understand that you are not alone. Many marriages end for reasons having nothing to do with one of the partners. A marriage requires both partners be fully engaged, and sometimes this isn’t the case. Included below are some warning signs for you to use to judge your own marriage.
There are multiple signs that it may be time to consider a divorce, including your partner saying that they no longer love you, a refusal to go to couples counseling, a difference between what your partner says and does, one of you has moved out of the house, you both are no longer included in each other’s daily life, or your partner purposely tries to hurt you.
If you may be experiencing some of the above warning signs, then consider the following for examining your marriage.
1. Lines of Communication
What any marriage ultimately comes down to is communication. Can you still communicate with your significant other? Can you be truthful, and like adults, sit down and discuss your feelings? If you can do this, then having a conversation will be painful, but may help salvage the relationship. Sadly, reaching true communication requires that both people be up for it, and more often then not, only one person is usually ready. If you believe your lines of communication are broken and your spouse refuses to open up, a divorce might lie ahead.
2. Separating Yourself
For many people potentially looking at divorce, the entire decision may seem fraught with difficulty and complications. You may be at the point where a divorce is the right idea, but still be having difficulty in justifying why. For making up your mind on divorce, below is a brief hint.
What many people do in this situation is to take some time to examine themselves outside of their partner. Imagine yourself now, and list only those things that you want, outside of your partner. You are responsible for these things. You are responsible for your dreams, your emotions, and your future. A partner can help you, but in the end, you have to think about yourself outside of the relationship. If the relationship is bringing you down and divorce seems likely, then it may be time to move on.
3. Contact a Divorce Therapist
Going through this period in your life means a lot of change and can be very painful. What many people do to help cope with the situation is to seek the experience and aid of a divorce therapist. Sadly, divorces happen all too often in our society. Thankfully, there are trained individuals willing to help and see you through this tough period in your life. A therapist can help you examine whether a divorce is truly in your best interests, and if it is, they can give you the support you need to get through it.
If you need help with your relationship, contact a relationship therapist to get the guidance needed to navigate this difficult time. You’ll be glad you did.